The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
The holidays are hard enough on their own. Add divorce to the mix and suddenly every twinkling light, every family gathering, every song on the radio can feel like a small ambush.
Your first set of holidays after divorce will be weird, scary, and painful. But they can also hold moments of genuine j...
You might already be familiar with open enrollment, but let's take a moment to talk about what it really means in the context of divorce and life changes since those things will make an impact on how you select insurance plans during this period!
While the timing of open enrollment can vary with d...
If you're going through a divorce and wondering about alimony in your state, it's important to understand both the legal requirements and the financial implications. Working with a certified divorce coach can help you navigate these complex financial decisions and prepare for conversations with you...
When you are going through a divorce, you hear a lot of things. From well-meaning friends who went through their own messy split five years ago, from that one aunt who knows somebody who knows somebody, from late-night Google rabbit holes that send you spiraling.
The problem is that when the same th...
Not long ago, I sat with a woman who was terrified.
Her divorce was underway, and for the first time in her marriage, she was staring down a stack of financial documents she didn't recognize. Her husband had always handled the money. Now she was being asked to make decisions that would shape the res...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 2 Also in this series: Part 1 — Insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 3 — Mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness
The time before your divorce is full of anticipation. ...
It doesn’t matter if you’re married or divorced, different people have different ideas about how to transition their children into adults. While you may be in favor of providing full financial support, your co-parent may have other ideas. For that matter, even different states’ laws handle the trans...
The issue of health insurance comes up in many of my cases as it can be a huge added expense post-divorce. You can’t stay on someone’s health insurance when you get divorced, but no one talks about the things you need to know and options that are available to you. For instance, what do you do when y...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 1 Also in this series: Part 2 — College, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset | Part 3 — Mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness
When I think back to the time during and even before my di...
Teenagers process divorce differently from younger children. They need less reassurance about logistics and more honesty about what is actually happening, without adult details. Expect anger, expect them to pull away, and expect them to want a say in the schedule. The parenting plan matters more at ...
Few people in the world can truly say that they love paperwork. But, unfortunately, the whole divorce process creates an abundance of it, and if you aren’t organized, it can really cost you a lot of money. That’s on top of the stress and anxiety that could appear when you can’t find a particular doc...
Dealing with a breakup or divorce can be one of the most emotionally overwhelming experiences you will ever face. The stress, sadness, confusion, and anger can feel like they hit you all at once. I remember going through that same emotional whiplash during my own divorce. One minute I felt steady, a...
