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Divorce changes everything. Even when it’s the right decision, it can leave you wondering who you are now and what comes next. If you’re trying to figure out how to pivot after divorce, you’re not alone. The transition into life after divorce often requires more than practical adjustments. It calls ...

by Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach, Divorce Mediator

You Deserve More Than a Sandwich Over the Sink – A Story of Self-Care After Divorce

You may be wondering about the title for this blog—"That’s a weird thing to say, what’s that about?”  I was thinking about how far I’ve come since the ...

by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach

Growing up, you likely heard others, at some point, say the “F- word”, and it wasn’t’ “fudge.” It was a taboo word and could possibly land you with a bar of soap in your mouth.  In this blog we will discuss a different “F-word”, and it still isn’t “fudge”, ...

Divorce after the age of 50 can be difficult and has its own unique set of challenges. After years of building a life together, couples may have a shared social network, financial assets, and even health concerns that can make the process of separation more complicated. 

Unfortunately, it is fairly...

This blog post was written by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach.

Have you ever noticed the incredible relief that comes from realizing you are not alone in your struggles? Knowing that others have faced similar challenges can be immensely comforting, especially when it feels like your loved on...

Divorce is one of the top 10 stressors we can face, and it impacts every aspect of our lives, including our professional career. So, how can you continue to be productive as you're going through this huge life change that is likely causing you stress and consuming your thoughts? We've put together a...

Since I started supporting those going through the divorce process, I have been amazed at the extremes I have witnessed. Some clients start out pursuing an amicable termination of marriage only to be drawn into a high-conflict situation by their soon-to-be ex. Others are extremely angry when they fi...

To ensure a smooth divorce process, some people think you need to have the best lawyer, a negotiation coach, or for your ex to give you everything you asked for without question. And while those things will make the divorce process easier and more pleasant, they only come after having this one thing...

There are many factors to consider when putting together a financial settlement agreement, but one of the things that has come up recently among my clients has been refinancing your house as part of your divorce financial settlement. 

There are two main things to consider when agreeing to anything,...

I have worked with many women and couples through the years as a divorce financial planner and mediator, and I genuinely believe that you can thrive after divorce. I have seen it firsthand, both watching the people I’ve worked with and having been through it myself!

If there’s one common factor bet...

When going through a divorce, you hear a lot of myths. Unfortunately, because you may be hearing the same ones repeated from a few sources, it can seem like they’re more truth than myth. These proclamations of how things “always are” or “never are” can be terribly scary, too. In a time when you’re a...

Not long ago, I sat with a woman who was terrified.

Her divorce was underway, and for the first time in her marriage, she was staring down a stack of financial documents she didn't recognize. Her husband had always handled the money. Now she was being asked to make decisions that would shape the re...