The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
When it comes to divorce and spousal support, there’s a prevalent misconception that only men are obligated to pay spousal support. However, in today’s ever-evolving landscape of gender roles, both professionally and domestically, the truth is that women can also be ordered to pay alimony. This lega...
An intentional divorce is one where you decide in advance how you want to move through the process, rather than reacting to whatever happens next. In practice it means choosing your process before conflict chooses it for you, gathering the financial facts before you negotiate, deciding which outcome...
The core difference is who is in the room. In collaborative divorce, each spouse has their own attorney and a team of professionals works together toward a settlement, with everyone signing an agreement not to litigate. In mediation, one neutral mediator facilitates and attorneys are optional. Colla...
It's the New Year! Now what?
Post by Liesel Darby, Divorce Coach & Mediator
The New Year is all about starting fresh, starting over, moving forward. Unless you happen to have a giant shiny red REFRESH button to hit on January 1, some intentional pondering must happen before any changes are made. I...
Are you wondering how to stay financially afloat while navigating a divorce? Look no further. In this guide to financial planning for divorce, we provide you with a roadmap that covers forming a support team, dividing assets fairly, and resetting your finances for a stable future. Discover actionabl...
Experiencing a divorce is undeniably one of life's most difficult challenges, often leaving individuals feeling isolated and bewildered. However, imagine having a steadfast companion who could accompany you on this journey, offering expert guidance, emotional solace, and a remarkable sense of commun...
During mediation, a CDFA builds the complete financial picture and stress-tests every proposal against it. That means analysing assets and debts, working out how retirement accounts and pensions can actually be divided, identifying the tax consequences of options that look equivalent on paper, model...
Divorce is undeniably a tumultuous period in anyone's life, characterized by emotional upheaval and significant financial changes. The impact of a divorce on one's financial future can be destabilizing if not handled with care. However, by engaging in careful planning and making thoughtful decisions...
Navigating the divorce process can often feel like a turbulent, confusing, and uncertain storm. Amid the whirlwind of emotions, it's easy to overlook a critical lifeline that can guide you towards calmer waters - financial stability. Financial stability, specifically taking control of your investmen...
One of the most complex aspects of divorce is the division of assets, particularly when it comes to protecting your inherited money in divorce. Inheritance, often steeped in sentimental value and of significant financial worth, is a treasure worth guarding. The way forward is paved with knowledge, s...
Embarking on the path of divorce requires strategic financial planning to achieve a successful settlement. As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), I have witnessed the transformative impact that well-informed financial decisions can have during this process.
In this blog post, we will navig...
One of the things that breaks my heart is how often I hear women apologize before they tell me what has been happening with the money.
They say things like:
- “Maybe I’m overreacting.”
- “He’s always handled the finances.”
- “I’m just not good with money.”
- “I don’t even know what questions to ask.” ...
