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Divorce is one of the most emotionally and financially significant transitions many people will ever experience. And while every divorce is different, one decision can have a major impact on how stressful, expensive, and emotionally draining the process becomes: choosing the right divorce mediator.

If you've started looking into divorce coaching, you've probably noticed that the term "divorce coach" gets used pretty broadly. Some coaches have extensive training and recognized certifications. Others have completed a weekend workshop, or have no formal training at all beyond their own divorce ex...

I need to tell you something that might sound counterintuitive when you're in the thick of divorce:

This isn't a battle to win. It's a puzzle to solve.

I know that feels wrong when emotions are running high. When you feel betrayed. When your attorney is talking about "leverage" and "positioning." ...

by Liesel Darby, M.Ed., M.A., CC - Divorce Mediator & Certified Divorce Coach

The Chinese Take on Chaos

Consider the word "chaos." The images that spring to my mind contain an element of speed. Something has happened quickly, out of the blue, and your world is suddenly upside down. Chaos is the op...

Written by Liesel Darby, Mediator and Divorce Coach

Going through a divorce is hard enough on its own. When your co-parent is difficult, dismissive, or deliberately provocative, it can feel like the emotional work never ends.

The good news is this: you do not have to control them. You only have to...

Experiencing a divorce is undeniably one of life's most difficult challenges, often leaving individuals feeling isolated and bewildered. However, imagine having a steadfast companion who could accompany you on this journey, offering expert guidance, emotional solace, and a remarkable sense of commun...

If you are divorcing a narcissist, you already know that this is not a normal divorce.

Normal divorce is hard. Divorcing a narcissist is something else entirely. The manipulation, the gaslighting, the hidden assets, the refusal to settle reasonably, the way they can make you question your own memor...

Co-Parenting Apps

I think we all can agree that parenting can be challenging even in the best of circumstances. Co-parenting after a divorce brings a whole new set of challenges. When I first went through my divorce, dealing with the most basic things related to the kids felt like preparing for bat...

Guest post by Kelly Shaw, Mediator

This is NOT your typical blog post about why to use a mediator…this is my personal story about how an amicable divorce is possible. 

If you Google "reasons to use a divorce mediator," you will get thousands of results. Luckily, most will have the same answers and...

Ways to Manage the Stress of Parenting Conflict

For most of us, the holiday season is full of decorating, shopping, baking, wrapping gifts, and parties. While this can all be fun, we all know it's also stressful!

Then, there is the added pressure of parenting. School grading periods are ending, an...

Holidays are a time for family, friends and spending time together, but this can be very complicated if you’re divorced and are trying to figure out how to make it a great holiday for your kids. And if it’s your first Christmas after a divorce, there will definitely be challenges. 

I still remember...

This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 3 Also in this series: Part 1 — Insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 2 — College, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset

Divorce can be a bit like a special club that you never an...