The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
A client came to me a couple of years ago, right before Christmas, worried about money. Very specific money. Her furnace was failing and her roof needed work, the kind of repairs that could not be put off another season. She knew the number to the dollar. She had run it more than once, mostly becaus...
Nobody hands you a guide for this part.
If you are looking for books for grieving a divorce, I am so glad you found your way here. You already get plenty of advice about lawyers. About paperwork. About splitting accounts and dividing up a life you built together. But the grief? The quiet, heavy, out...
Whether you are in the thick of it or just starting to find your footing on the other side, these episodes were made for you.
If you have been searching for honest, helpful guidance on divorce, the kind that does not sugarcoat the hard parts but also does not leave you drowning in them, you are in t...
When you're in the middle of a divorce, everyone seems to have an opinion about what you should do. Get a lawyer. See a therapist. Talk to your pastor. Call your sister.
The advice is well-meaning, but it can also leave you more confused than when you started.
One question I hear a lot from the peo...
Divorce coaches typically charge $150 to $300 per hour, or $150 to $350 per session, with multi-session packages usually offering a lower per-session rate. Most offer a free initial consultation. The more useful question is net cost: coaching often reduces the total cost of a divorce, because the ho...
When Anger Feels Bigger Than You
Have you ever been so angry at someone that it feels as though your body might act before your mind has time to catch up. Your breathing changes. Your muscles tighten. Your jaw clenches without your permission. You may feel an impulse to scream, to lash out, or to p...
Divorce coaching is about helping you find your footing again when life feels uncertain. It's both emotional and practical, offering a safe space to think clearly, make confident decisions, and move forward with purpose.
At Intentional Divorce Solutions, our coaching and mediation support are desig...
Divorce is one of the most financially significant events of your life. Every decision from how you divide retirement accounts to whether you keep the house can shape your financial security for decades. One of the most common questions I hear from women going through this transition is: “Do I need ...
Divorce changes everything. Even when it’s the right decision, it can leave you wondering who you are now and what comes next. If you’re trying to figure out how to pivot after divorce, you’re not alone. The transition into life after divorce often requires more than practical adjustments. It calls ...
Congratulations on setting up your first session with a divorce coach! That took some courage—many people never even acknowledge that they could use some help to get through this very challenging time and needlessly suffer in silence. You, however, took steps to actually do something about it. Now ...
Divorce does not just divide assets. It can shatter your sense of financial security and leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about money. Whether you were the money person in your marriage or left financial decisions to your spouse, the emotional and logistical upheaval of starting...
by Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach, Divorce Mediator
You Deserve More Than a Sandwich Over the Sink – A Story of Self-Care After Divorce
You may be wondering about the title for this blog—"That’s a weird thing to say, what’s that about?” I was thinking about how far I’ve come since the ve...
