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By Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach and Mediator

Divorce is already overwhelming and emotionally intense, but when your spouse's addiction is thrown into the mix? That adds a whole new level of complexity and angst. There can be shame, guilt, safety concerns, anger, and fear surrounding a ...

If you're going through divorce and feeling terrified about money, you're not alone. Financial fear during divorce is one of the most common concerns I hear from clients, and it's completely normal.

Even women with strong financial backgrounds, successful careers, or years of managing household fin...

When Anger Feels Bigger Than You

Have you ever been so angry at someone that it feels as though your body might act before your mind has time to catch up. Your breathing changes. Your muscles tighten. Your jaw clenches without your permission. You may feel an impulse to scream, to lash out, or to p...

I need to tell you something that might sound counterintuitive when you're in the thick of divorce:

This isn't a battle to win. It's a puzzle to solve.

I know that feels wrong when emotions are running high. When you feel betrayed. When your attorney is talking about "leverage" and "positioning." ...

It's 10:47pm on a Tuesday and your phone lights up. Another text from your ex about Christmas morning logistics. You know you should be asleep—you have an early meeting tomorrow—but now you're wide awake, heart racing, trying to figure out how to respond without starting World War III.

Sound famili...

Divorce coaching is about helping you find your footing again when life feels uncertain. It’s both emotional and practical, offering a safe space to think clearly, make confident decisions, and move forward with purpose.

At Intentional Divorce Solutions, our coaching and mediation support are desig...

Divorce is one of the most financially significant events of your life. Every decision from how you divide retirement accounts to whether you keep the house can shape your financial security for decades. One of the most common questions I hear from women going through this transition is: “Do I need ...

Divorce changes everything. Even when it’s the right decision, it can leave you wondering who you are now and what comes next. If you’re trying to figure out how to pivot after divorce, you’re not alone. The transition into life after divorce often requires more than practical adjustments. It calls ...

Congratulations on setting up your first session with a divorce coach!  That took some courage—many people never even acknowledge that they could use some help to get through this very challenging time and needlessly suffer in silence. You, however, took steps to actually do something about it. Now ...

Divorce does not just divide assets. It can shatter your sense of financial security and leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about money. Whether you were the money person in your marriage or left financial decisions to your spouse, the emotional and logistical upheaval of starting...

by Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach, Divorce Mediator

You Deserve More Than a Sandwich Over the Sink – A Story of Self-Care After Divorce

You may be wondering about the title for this blog—"That’s a weird thing to say, what’s that about?”  I was thinking about how far I’ve come since the ...