The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
If you are going through a divorce in Ohio, or even just starting to think about it, I want you to know something right away: your financial future is not over. It is not ruined. And it is certainly not out of your control. What it is, honestly, is at a crossroads. And the decisions you make right n...
A certified divorce coach is a divorce coach who has completed a structured training program through a recognized certifying body, passed a competency assessment, and agreed to follow that body's code of ethics. Divorce coaching is not a licensed profession, so there is no state board deciding who m...
Divorce coaches typically charge $150 to $300 per hour, or $150 to $350 per session, with multi-session packages usually offering a lower per-session rate. Most offer a free initial consultation. The more useful question is net cost: coaching often reduces the total cost of a divorce, because the ho...
When you're facing divorce, one of the first questions you ask yourself is: Who do I need on my team?
Most people automatically think "lawyer." And yes, an attorney is often an essential part of navigating the legal aspects of divorce. But more and more people are discovering that a divorce coach fi...
Divorce touches every part of your life: your finances, your parenting, your daily routine, your sense of self. And while you might have an attorney handling the legal side and a therapist helping with emotional healing, there's a gap between those two roles that can leave you feeling overwhelmed, s...
By Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach and Mediator
Divorce is already overwhelming and emotionally intense, but when your spouse's addiction is thrown into the mix? That adds a whole new level of complexity and angst. There can be shame, guilt, safety concerns, anger, and fear surrounding a ...
If you're going through divorce and feeling terrified about money, you're not alone. Financial fear during divorce is one of the most common concerns I hear from clients, and it's completely normal.
Even women with strong financial backgrounds, successful careers, or years of managing household fin...
When Anger Feels Bigger Than You
Have you ever been so angry at someone that it feels as though your body might act before your mind has time to catch up. Your breathing changes. Your muscles tighten. Your jaw clenches without your permission. You may feel an impulse to scream, to lash out, or to p...
I need to tell you something that might sound counterintuitive when you're in the thick of divorce:
This isn't a battle to win. It's a puzzle to solve.
I know that feels wrong when emotions are running high. When you feel betrayed. When your attorney is talking about "leverage" and "positioning." Wh...
A holiday boundary is simply a clear expectation about how you will interact: non-emergency messages answered during business hours only, the parenting plan followed as agreed, joint family events declined if they cost more than they give. State it calmly once, then follow through. Boundaries feel u...
Divorce coaching is about helping you find your footing again when life feels uncertain. It's both emotional and practical, offering a safe space to think clearly, make confident decisions, and move forward with purpose.
At Intentional Divorce Solutions, our coaching and mediation support are desig...
Divorce is one of the most financially significant events of your life. Every decision from how you divide retirement accounts to whether you keep the house can shape your financial security for decades. One of the most common questions I hear from women going through this transition is: “Do I need ...
