The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
Over the past few years I have been a guest on dozens of podcasts, talking with attorneys, mediators, coaches, and therapists about the financial side of divorce. This page collects those conversations in one place, grouped by what each one is actually about.
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One of the things that breaks my heart is how often I hear women apologize before they tell me what has been happening with the money.
They say things like:
- “Maybe I’m overreacting.”
- “He’s always handled the finances.”
- “I’m just not good with money.”
- “I don’t even know what questions to ask.” ...
If you are divorcing a narcissist, you already know that this is not a normal divorce.
Normal divorce is hard. Divorcing a narcissist is something else entirely. The manipulation, the gaslighting, the hidden assets, the refusal to settle reasonably, the way they can make you question your own memory...
Since I started supporting people through divorce, I have been amazed at the extremes I have witnessed. Some clients start out pursuing an amicable end to their marriage only to be pulled into a high-conflict situation by their soon-to-be ex. Others are furious when they first reach out, then find h...
When people think about infidelity, they typically think about one spouse or the other cheating with another person. However, did you know there's an entirely different type of infidelity that may not even involve another person? It's called financial infidelity or "financial cheating."
If you thin...
First, if you are considering leaving an abusive relationship and are in an unsafe situation, I encourage you to contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline for assistance.
If you are experiencing financial abuse in your relationship, it's important to take action to protect yourself. Financial ...
