7 Issues That Could Signal an Impending Divorce

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Over the years of working with people going through a divorce, I've heard repeatedly that one of the parties was blindsided by the other spouse's request for a divorce. With that said, a relationship headed for an impending divorce will often show multiple signs of challenges and issues, if you're paying attention. 

7 issues that could signal an impending divorce:

1. You feel emotionally detached from your spouse.

One of the most frequent complaints is that love has faded.  Know that it's normal for relationships to change over time. Your love will also change. The first feeling of romance will turn into a deeper kind of love. However, it shouldn't disappear. A relationship that has lost its love altogether is in danger.

2. Mutual resentment has reached high levels.

Anger and resentment can do immense damage to a relationship. If you both resent each other, then it's a strong sign the marriage is in trouble.

3. You or your spouse criticize the other all the time.

If one partner feels criticized by the other, it can lead to anger and resentment.  In a healthy relationship, you may occasionally criticize each other and argue. However, if the criticism is constant and feels overwhelming, there's a more significant issue. 

An unhealthy relationship can be created by one partner continually belittling the other partner.

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4. Trust is missing from the relationship.

Trust is a crucial foundation of marriage, so relationships can crumble if it disappears.  Do you have concerns about your partner's motives and suggestions? Do you worry about infidelity? Do you believe your partner no longer wants you to be successful?

These are typical examples of lost trust in a relationship.  A lack of trust means that you don't feel comfortable being vulnerable around your partner. This can hinder you from sharing your deepest thoughts.


5. Lack (or rare) physical intimacy is an obvious sign of an impending divorce.

Whether one of you has lost interest in sex or you both have, a lack of physical intimacy is a clear sign that there's a serious problem in the relationship that needs to be addressed. Many of the couples that I work with share that they have not shared a bed in quite some time prior to deciding to dissolve their marriage.

6. Your ex is affecting the marriage.

Do you have an ex that is meddling with your current relationship? This can lead to serious issues in a marriage and become a key factor in an impending divorce.

Even if you no longer have feelings for your ex, your current partner can feel uncomfortable and scared. They can question the strength of the marriage.

7. Resolving your differences has become a struggle.

Do you feel that you are constantly having the same argument with your partner, yet nothing is resolved?  In a relationship, it's common for one or both of you to bring up the same issues. However, eventually, progress has to be made in resolving the problems. Otherwise, it starts to affect the marriage.

If you don't make any progress, then you're at risk of stagnating in the issue.  It's essential to be able to compromise, forgive, apologize, and move on. 

Relationships that continue to have the same arguments with no resolutions can suffer from distance and resentment. You're at risk of losing the closeness and emotional connection you have with your partner.  A negative pattern can form that leads to frequent arguments that don't get solved.

Over time, not being able to resolve your differences can tear apart your marriage and signify an impending divorce.

Before a breakup occurs, you may notice multiple signs that a relationship is suffering. By paying attention to the complaints and signs, you can work on positive resolutions to your challenges instead of divorce.

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Here’s how we can help you...

We get that divorce can feel really hard and leave you with a lot of questions about how to handle your finances. After all, this is the reason Leah Hadley founded Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions in the first place. 

After her divorce, she found herself stressed and overwhelmed about how to navigate life on her own with three kids and a new financial situation.

Helping families overcome this challenge is why we do what we do. 

Whether you’ve never had to manage money before, or you’re a master at investing, we are here to support you as your financial expert before, during, and after your divorce. 

What our clients love most about working with us is that we’re able to help them avoid costly financial mistakes and achieve the financial stability they need to plan for the future.

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