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If you've started looking into divorce coaching, you've probably noticed that the term "divorce coach" gets used pretty broadly. Some coaches have extensive training and recognized certifications. Others have completed a weekend workshop, or have no formal training at all beyond their own divorce ex...

Written by Liesel Darby, Mediator and Divorce Coach

Going through a divorce is hard enough on its own. When your co-parent is difficult, dismissive, or deliberately provocative, it can feel like the emotional work never ends.

The good news is this: you do not have to control them. You only have to...

If you are divorcing a narcissist, you already know that this is not a normal divorce.

Normal divorce is hard. Divorcing a narcissist is something else entirely. The manipulation, the gaslighting, the hidden assets, the refusal to settle reasonably, the way they can make you question your own memor...

Holidays are a time for family, friends and spending time together, but this can be very complicated if you’re divorced and are trying to figure out how to make it a great holiday for your kids. And if it’s your first Christmas after a divorce, there will definitely be challenges. 

I still remember...

This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 3 Also in this series: Part 1 — Insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 2 — College, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset

Divorce can be a bit like a special club that you never an...

This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 2 Also in this series: Part 1 — Insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 3 — Mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness

The time before your divorce is full of anticipation. ...

This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 1 Also in this series: Part 2 — College, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset | Part 3 — Mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness

When I think back to the time during and even before my di...

If love is a battlefield, then co-parenting teens is a battlefield with landmines. Teenagers can swing from adolescent to grown-up feelings (and back again) in the snap of your fingers. This confusing age is hard enough already for them to navigate. Throw in the challenges of being a teen with divor...

It's that time of year again where many of us are considering how we might be better or do better in the new year with New Year's resolutions. If parenting with your ex has been a significant struggle in your life, I want to challenge you to resolve to be a better co-parent this year. If you don't w...

When you’re trying to co-parent with your ex, it can make things more difficult for you and your child. Successful co-parenting results in happier children, parents who are less stressed, and an overall greater level of contentment after divorce. While it can be difficult to get adjusted to having a...

Telling parents about divorce can be hard enough. I have seen the tension in a divorce increase too many times as a result of meddling family members or friends. During the holidays, we tend to interact with family members and friends more than we do all year long, so there is even more opportunity ...

If it's your first Christmas after your divorce and you are feeling sad or lonely or even angry, that's completely normal. Feelings often intensify around the holidays.

I remember my first Christmas after my divorce well. My ex and I didn't have a lot of conversation regarding how it was going to g...