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 When you're in the middle of a divorce, everyone seems to have an opinion about what you should do. Get a lawyer. See a therapist. Talk to your pastor. Call your sister.

The advice is well-meaning, but it can also leave you more confused than when you started.

One question I hear a lot from the p...

One of the most common questions I hear from women sitting across from me is some version of: "Can I actually afford to do this?"

They are not asking because they want to stay in a painful marriage. They are asking because they are terrified of the financial unknown. They have heard horror stories....

If you are going through a divorce in Ohio, or even just starting to think about it, I want you to know something right away: your financial future is not over. It is not ruined. And it is certainly not out of your control. What it is, honestly, is at a crossroads. And the decisions you make right n...

If you've started looking into divorce coaching, you've probably noticed that the term "divorce coach" gets used pretty broadly. Some coaches have extensive training and recognized certifications. Others have completed a weekend workshop, or have no formal training at all beyond their own divorce ex...

One of the first questions people ask when they learn about divorce coaching is: How much is this going to cost me?

It's a fair question, especially when divorce itself is already expensive. Between attorney fees, court costs, and the financial restructuring that comes with splitting one household ...

When you're facing divorce, one of the first questions you ask yourself is: Who do I need on my team?

Most people automatically think "lawyer." And yes, an attorney is often an essential part of navigating the legal aspects of divorce. But more and more people are discovering that a divorce coach f...

Divorce touches every part of your life: your finances, your parenting, your daily routine, your sense of self. And while you might have an attorney handling the legal side and a therapist helping with emotional healing, there's a gap between those two roles that can leave you feeling overwhelmed, s...

By Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach and Mediator

Divorce is already overwhelming and emotionally intense, but when your spouse's addiction is thrown into the mix? That adds a whole new level of complexity and angst. There can be shame, guilt, safety concerns, anger, and fear surrounding a ...

If you're going through divorce and feeling terrified about money, you're not alone. Financial fear during divorce is one of the most common concerns I hear from clients, and it's completely normal.

Even women with strong financial backgrounds, successful careers, or years of managing household fin...

When Anger Feels Bigger Than You

Have you ever been so angry at someone that it feels as though your body might act before your mind has time to catch up. Your breathing changes. Your muscles tighten. Your jaw clenches without your permission. You may feel an impulse to scream, to lash out, or to p...

I need to tell you something that might sound counterintuitive when you're in the thick of divorce:

This isn't a battle to win. It's a puzzle to solve.

I know that feels wrong when emotions are running high. When you feel betrayed. When your attorney is talking about "leverage" and "positioning." ...

It's 10:47pm on a Tuesday and your phone lights up. Another text from your ex about Christmas morning logistics. You know you should be asleep—you have an early meeting tomorrow—but now you're wide awake, heart racing, trying to figure out how to respond without starting World War III.

Sound famili...