The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
If you have walked out of a meeting with your attorney knowing that a lot was said but not what was decided, you are in good company. Knowing how to talk to your divorce attorney is a skill, and almost no one is taught it before they need it.
There are three moves that help, all borrowed from basic...
If you have found yourself quietly Googling "can I afford to get divorced" at midnight, or spending your lunch break reading about what divorce actually costs, you are not alone. And you are not approaching this the wrong way.
Midlife women considering divorce are often carrying a lot: decades of sh...
When you're in the middle of a divorce, everyone seems to have an opinion about what you should do. Get a lawyer. See a therapist. Talk to your pastor. Call your sister.
The advice is well-meaning, but it can also leave you more confused than when you started.
One question I hear a lot from the peo...
If you've started looking into divorce coaching, you've probably noticed that the term "divorce coach" gets used pretty broadly. Some coaches have extensive training and recognized certifications. Others have completed a weekend workshop, or have no formal training at all beyond their own divorce ex...
Divorce coaches typically charge $150 to $300 per hour, or $150 to $350 per session, with multi-session packages usually offering a lower per-session rate. Most offer a free initial consultation. The more useful question is net cost: coaching often reduces the total cost of a divorce, because the ho...
When you're facing divorce, one of the first questions you ask yourself is: Who do I need on my team?
Most people automatically think "lawyer." And yes, an attorney is often an essential part of navigating the legal aspects of divorce. But more and more people are discovering that a divorce coach f...
Divorce touches every part of your life: your finances, your parenting, your daily routine, your sense of self. And while you might have an attorney handling the legal side and a therapist helping with emotional healing, there's a gap between those two roles that can leave you feeling overwhelmed, s...
By Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach and Mediator
Divorce is already overwhelming and emotionally intense, but when your spouse's addiction is thrown into the mix? That adds a whole new level of complexity and angst. There can be shame, guilt, safety concerns, anger, and fear surrounding a ...
When Anger Feels Bigger Than You
Have you ever been so angry at someone that it feels as though your body might act before your mind has time to catch up. Your breathing changes. Your muscles tighten. Your jaw clenches without your permission. You may feel an impulse to scream, to lash out, or to p...
A holiday boundary is simply a clear expectation about how you will interact: non-emergency messages answered during business hours only, the parenting plan followed as agreed, joint family events declined if they cost more than they give. State it calmly once, then follow through. Boundaries feel u...
Divorce coaching is about helping you find your footing again when life feels uncertain. It's both emotional and practical, offering a safe space to think clearly, make confident decisions, and move forward with purpose.
At Intentional Divorce Solutions, our coaching and mediation support are desig...
Divorce changes everything. Even when it’s the right decision, it can leave you wondering who you are now and what comes next. If you’re trying to figure out how to pivot after divorce, you’re not alone. The transition into life after divorce often requires more than practical adjustments. It calls ...
