The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
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Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
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If you are divorcing a narcissist, you already know that this is not a normal divorce.
Normal divorce is hard. Divorcing a narcissist is something else entirely. The manipulation, the gaslighting, the hidden assets, the refusal to settle reasonably, the way they can make you question your own memory...
Divorce after 50 is not just a legal and financial event. It is a life earthquake.
You are dismantling a life you built over decades. Your social circle may split. Your identity as part of a couple changes overnight. The future you planned together suddenly needs to be rebuilt from scratch — on you...
This blog post was written by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach.
Have you ever noticed the incredible relief that comes from realizing you are not alone in your struggles? Knowing that others have faced similar challenges can be immensely comforting, especially when it feels like your loved on...
Your divorce is final. You made it through.
Now comes the part nobody warned you about — the long list of practical things that need to happen before your new life actually starts. Accounts to close. Documents to update. Insurance to sort out. A budget that reflects your real life now, not the one y...
Taxes are probably the last thing you want to think about when you are in the middle of a divorce. But getting this wrong can cost you real money. And the rules are more nuanced than most people realize.
I get tax questions from clients constantly, especially around filing status. So let me walk thr...
This post is written for divorce attorneys and other professionals. If you are going through a divorce yourself, our guide to collaborative divorce and mediation is a better place to start.
When a CDFA and a divorce attorney work a case together, the client gets a settlement that is documented accu...
The best co-parenting app is the one both parents will actually use. If your communication is broadly civil, a shared calendar may be all you need. If it is contentious, or if anything might end up in front of a judge, choose a platform that keeps an unalterable record: OurFamilyWizard and TalkingPa...
There's that famous quote by Benjamin Franklin about how nothing is certain but taxes or death. Regardless of your previous involvement with tax preparation, your tax situation has likely changed if you're on your own for the first time in a while. And there's no avoiding it; your taxes will need to...
Yes, and it is more achievable than most people expect. An amicable divorce does not mean you like each other or agree on much. It means you handle the process without going to war: talking directly instead of through attorneys, keeping the decisions with you rather than a judge, and choosing repeat...
Ways to Manage the Stress of Parenting Conflict
For most of us, the holiday season is full of decorating, shopping, baking, wrapping gifts, and parties. While this can all be fun, we all know it's also stressful!
Then, there is the added pressure of parenting. School grading periods are ending, and ...
Online divorce mediation works the same way as in-person mediation, over video instead of in a room. A neutral mediator facilitates the conversation, screens are shared so you can see the agreement being built in real time, and sessions can be scheduled outside standard office hours. For most couple...
Most jurisdictions have no spousal support calculator, so in mediation the number is negotiated rather than computed. The analysis starts with what the recipient needs and what the payor can afford, both established from a detailed look at income and expenses. From there, four things have to be sett...
