The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
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Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
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There's that famous quote by Benjamin Franklin about how nothing is certain but taxes or death. Regardless of your previous involvement with tax preparation, your tax situation has likely changed if you're on your own for the first time in a while. And there's no avoiding it; your taxes will need to...
An amicable divorce is one where both spouses resolve the practical decisions, like money, property, and parenting, cooperatively instead of through court battles. You do not have to like each other or agree on much. It means talking directly instead of through attorneys, keeping the decisions with ...
The holiday season is already full. Decorating, shopping, baking, parties. Then add school concerts, class parties, and big projects due before winter break. For divorced parents, all of that sits on top of figuring out how to split the time and still make the season special for your kids.
It's no w...
Online divorce mediation works the same way as in-person mediation, over video instead of in a room. A neutral mediator facilitates the conversation, screens are shared so you can see the agreement being built in real time, and sessions can be scheduled outside standard office hours. For most couple...
Most jurisdictions have no spousal support calculator, so in mediation the number is negotiated rather than computed. The analysis starts with what the recipient needs and what the payor can afford, both established from a detailed look at income and expenses. From there, four things have to be sett...
Divorce is anything but easy. Some emotional or financial issues will be more challenging to overcome than others, yet every challenge has a solution.
As you work your way through a checklist of items to deal with during the divorce process, you'll have lots to consider, from who gets what to your ...
Divorce is one of the top 10 stressors we can face, and it impacts every aspect of our lives, including our professional career. So, how can you continue to be productive as you're going through this huge life change that is likely causing you stress and consuming your thoughts? We've put together a...
If you're wondering how to keep your house in a divorce, you're not alone. A lot of our clients have sentimental attachments to their homes. Your home is where you’ve made so many memories. It's where you raised your family. You may have close relationships with your neighbors or other strong ties t...
Since I started supporting people through divorce, I have been amazed at the extremes I have witnessed. Some clients start out pursuing an amicable end to their marriage only to be pulled into a high-conflict situation by their soon-to-be ex. Others are furious when they first reach out, then find h...
The holidays are about family and time together, which can make them feel complicated after a divorce. You want the season to be special for your kids, and you're figuring out a whole new way of doing it, often while working through your own feelings at the same time.
I still remember my first Chris...
For a lot of women, Thanksgiving is the first big holiday after divorce. Even if you've been divorced for years, the season can still sting. November and December are full of traditions, and many of them were built around the family you had before.
Here's what I see happen again and again. People t...
To ensure a smooth divorce process, some people think you need to have the best lawyer, a negotiation coach, or for your ex to give you everything you asked for without question. And while those things will make the divorce process easier and more pleasant, they only come after having this one thing...