Welcome to the Intentional Divorce Solutions Blog
If you're navigating divorce or rebuilding your life afterward, you're in the right place. This blog offers expert advice on the financial aspects of divorce, including asset division, budgeting, retirement planning, and avoiding common financial mistakes. Our goal is to help you gain clarity, protect your future, and feel empowered as you move forward.
Whether you're just starting the divorce process or adjusting to your new normal, explore our articles for practical tips, real-life strategies, and support from professionals who understand what you're going through.
I need to tell you something that might sound counterintuitive when you're in the thick of divorce:
This isn't a battle to win. It's a puzzle to solve.
I know that feels wrong when emotions are running high. When you feel betrayed. When your attorney is talking about "leverage" and "positioning." ...
It's 10:47pm on a Tuesday and your phone lights up. Another text from your ex about Christmas morning logistics. You know you should be asleep—you have an early meeting tomorrow—but now you're wide awake, heart racing, trying to figure out how to respond without starting World War III.
Sound famili...
Divorce coaching is about helping you find your footing again when life feels uncertain. It’s both emotional and practical, offering a safe space to think clearly, make confident decisions, and move forward with purpose.
At Intentional Divorce Solutions, our coaching and mediation support are desig...
Divorce is one of the most financially significant events of your life. Every decision from how you divide retirement accounts to whether you keep the house can shape your financial security for decades. One of the most common questions I hear from women going through this transition is: “Do I need ...
The Power of a Pivot
Think about a pivot. It means to suddenly turn in another direction. It is not a slow, meandering curve; it is sharp and quick.
A pivot demands presence. It calls for quick thinking, trust in your instincts, and a willingness to leave behind the familiar. Whether it’s a phys...
Congratulations on setting up your first session with a divorce coach! That took some courage—many people never even acknowledge that they could use some help to get through this very challenging time and needlessly suffer in silence. You, however, took steps to actually do something about it. Now ...
Divorce doesn't just divide assets—it can shatter your sense of financial security. Even if you were the “money person” in the relationship, the emotional and logistical upheaval of starting over can shake your confidence to the core.
But here’s what I want you to know: you are not broken—and you a...
by Liesel Darby, ADR Certified Divorce Coach, Divorce Mediator
You Deserve More Than a Sandwich Over the Sink – A Story of Self-Care After Divorce
You may be wondering about the title for this blog—"That’s a weird thing to say, what’s that about?” I was thinking about how far I’ve come since the ...
Divorce at any age comes with financial complexities, but for those over 50, the stakes can be even higher. More couples in this age group are experiencing what is often referred to as “gray divorce,” highlighting an increasing trend of divorces among those over 50. Splitting up later in life brin
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The holiday season is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year,” right? But if you’re adjusting to new financial realities after a divorce, this season can feel more overwhelming than joyful. Between gifts, gatherings, travel, and all those little extras, holiday spending can easily snowb...
by Liesel Darby, M.Ed., M.A., CC - Divorce Mediator & Divorce Coach
The Chinese Take on Chaos
Consider the word “chaos”—the images that spring to my mind contain an element of speed. Something has happened quickly, out of the blue, and your world is suddenly upside down. Chaos is the opposite of ...
by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach
What do the following have in common?
- You’re in the grocery store, looking for your favorite brand of stone-ground mustard, only to find that they no longer carry it. The replacement brand is twice the price, and you don’t like the packaging either.
- Yo...
