The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
Executive compensation earned during a marriage, including restricted stock units (RSUs), stock options, and nonqualified deferred compensation (NQDC), is generally marital or community property subject to division in divorce, even if it has not vested yet. How much of it counts as marital, how it g...
This question comes up more than you would think, usually because a car has picked the worst possible moment to die.
The honest answer is that it depends, and the things it depends on are worth understanding before you sign anything. A car is often the largest purchase a woman makes while her divorc...
Let me ask you something.
If your spouse stopped paying a joint credit card tomorrow, would you know about it before the late payment appeared on your credit report?
For many people, the honest answer is no.
Credit is easy to overlook during divorce. You are focused on where you will live, how asset...
Whether you are in the thick of it or just starting to find your footing on the other side, these episodes were made for you.
If you have been searching for honest, helpful guidance on divorce, the kind that does not sugarcoat the hard parts but also does not leave you drowning in them, you are in t...
If you have found yourself quietly Googling "can I afford to get divorced" at midnight, or spending your lunch break reading about what divorce actually costs, you are not alone. And you are not approaching this the wrong way.
Midlife women considering divorce are often carrying a lot: decades of sh...
A divorce mediator and a CDFA do different jobs. The mediator facilitates the conversation and helps you reach agreements, but does not analyze finances or give legal advice. A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst models the tax, cash flow, and long-term consequences of the options on the table. Coup...
One of the most common questions I hear from women sitting across from me is some version of: "Can I actually afford to do this?"
They are not asking because they want to stay in a painful marriage. They are asking because they are terrified of the financial unknown. They have heard horror stories. ...
Going through a divorce is not just emotionally taxing, but it also brings a host of financial complexities that can have a profound impact on your future. Many individuals, while recognizing the need for legal advice during divorce, often overlook the critical role of a Certified Divorce Financial ...
Over the past few years I have been a guest on dozens of podcasts, talking with attorneys, mediators, coaches, and therapists about the financial side of divorce. This page collects those conversations in one place, grouped by what each one is actually about.
Looking for shows to subscribe to ins...
One of the things that breaks my heart is how often I hear women apologize before they tell me what has been happening with the money.
They say things like:
- “Maybe I’m overreacting.”
- “He’s always handled the finances.”
- “I’m just not good with money.”
- “I don’t even know what questions to ask.” ...
If you are divorcing a narcissist, you already know that this is not a normal divorce.
Normal divorce is hard. Divorcing a narcissist is something else entirely. The manipulation, the gaslighting, the hidden assets, the refusal to settle reasonably, the way they can make you question your own memory...
Divorce after 50 is not just a legal and financial event. It is a life earthquake.
You are dismantling a life you built over decades. Your social circle may split. Your identity as part of a couple changes overnight. The future you planned together suddenly needs to be rebuilt from scratch — on you...
