The Intentional Divorce Library

Rebuilding After Divorce

Going through a divorce can leave your finances feeling completely upended. Suddenly managing two households instead of one is costly, regardless of your income or the terms of your settlement. If you're struggling with money after a divorce, you're not alone—and there is a...

Looking for FAFSA tips for divorced parents? In many of my divorce cases, how college expenses will be handled is an issue that needs to be addressed. It's common for parents to wait to divorce until their children are teenagers or young adults. This tends to be around the same time that people are ...

With three school-age children, I'll be honest. I dread the beginning-of-the-school-year paperwork. There's so much new information to track, countless forms to fill out, and schedules to coordinate. When you're managing a co-parenting schedule for the school year, that complexity multiplies. But wi...

Talking to your kids about divorce is one of the hardest parts of the whole process.

You are managing your own emotions while trying to find the right words for theirs. You want to be honest without overwhelming them. You want them to feel safe and loved even as everything around them is chang...

Preparing for an impending divorce is more than just picking up the phone and calling an attorney. There are the emotional aspects, financial, legal, and, of course, there are parenting issues. It means figuring out what life is going to look like when it's all said and done and includes preparing y...

When I got divorced, I had three children between the ages of three and eight. I remember the stress. I was overwhelmed thinking about how I was going to help my kids get through the divorce and ultimately, how I would manage on my own.

It can be scary to think about how you'll take care of yo...

Your spouse cheated. They are leaving you for someone else. Perhaps you've argued for years and just finally had enough. Regardless of the reason, in most cases, divorce is an emotional rollercoaster. People experience a wide range of intense emotions during this challenging process. Deciding how ...

There are several reasons that parents come in for mediation after a divorce is over. A big one is parenting expenses. The reality is if you get divorced when your children are young, it's hard to know what kind of extracurricular activities they will become involved with over the years or even if...

I stayed in my house when I got divorced. At the time, the housing market had declined so much that we had negative equity in our home. Selling our house would have put us in a worse financial situation than keeping it and we had three young children. Keeping them in the house gave them some stabi...

That's right. I said it. My key to successful co-parenting with my ex is not "putting my children first," as so many professionals recommend. Before I get into that, let's start with what co-parenting is.

What is co-parenting?

Co-parenting is the practice of raising children jointly with another p...

If you are wondering how to keep your house in a divorce, you're not alone. A lot of my clients have sentimental attachments to their homes. You've made memories there. It's where you raised your family. You may have close relationships with your neighbors or other strong ties to the community.

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Divorce itself is an emotionally charged, troubling process. Add major financial decisions to the mix, and divorce can be a recipe for disaster. Litigants are forced to make life-altering financial decisions during a time of emotional turmoil. Anyone walking through a divorce knows this can feel l...