The Intentional Divorce Library

Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.

No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.

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Finding Peace in the Midst of Divorce: How to Heal After a Breakup divorce coach divorce support groups life after divorce mediation

It's the New Year! Now what?

Post by Liesel Darby, Divorce Coach & Mediator

The New Year is all about starting fresh, starting over, moving forward. Unless you happen to have a giant shiny red REFRESH button to hit on January 1, some intentional pondering must happen before any changes are made. I...

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Smart Financial Planning for Divorce: Navigating Your Finances with Confidence certified divorce financial analyst financial planning

Are you wondering how to stay financially afloat while navigating a divorce? Look no further. In this guide to financial planning for divorce, we provide you with a roadmap that covers forming a support team, dividing assets fairly, and resetting your finances for a stable future. Discover actionabl...

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Navigating Life Changes: Divorce Podcasts & Other Inspiring Resources certified divorce financial analyst co-parenting dividing assets in a divorce divorce coach house in a divorce life after divorce mediation property division in divorce

Experiencing a divorce is undeniably one of life's most difficult challenges, often leaving individuals feeling isolated and bewildered. However, imagine having a steadfast companion who could accompany you on this journey, offering expert guidance, emotional solace, and a remarkable sense of commun...

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What a CDFA Actually Does During Divorce Mediation certified divorce financial analyst dividing assets in a divorce mediation property division in divorce

Divorce is more than an emotional and legal process. It is also a complex financial one, and mediation moves quickly enough that having a clear financial picture matters from the very first session. This guide walks through exactly what a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) reviews once media...

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10 Effective Strategies to Make Your Divorce Settlement Last asset division budgeting financial planning life after divorce

Divorce is undeniably a tumultuous period in anyone's life, characterized by emotional upheaval and significant financial changes. The impact of a divorce on one's financial future can be destabilizing if not handled with care. However, by engaging in careful planning and making thoughtful decisions...

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Post-Divorce Financial Planning: Why Revisiting Your Investments Matters certified divorce financial analyst financial planning life after divorce retirement accounts in divorce

Navigating the divorce process can often feel like a turbulent, confusing, and uncertain storm. Amid the whirlwind of emotions, it's easy to overlook a critical lifeline that can guide you towards calmer waters - financial stability. Financial stability, specifically taking control of your investmen...

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Strategic Approaches to Protecting Inherited Money in Divorce certified divorce financial analyst dividing assets in a divorce inheritance in a divorce property division in divorce separate property

One of the most complex aspects of divorce is the division of assets, particularly when it comes to protecting your inherited money in divorce. Inheritance, often steeped in sentimental value and of significant financial worth, is a treasure worth guarding. The way forward is paved with knowledge, s...

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Mastering the Art of a Successful Divorce Settlement: Your Path to Financial Empowerment alimony/spousal support certified divorce financial analyst child support dividing assets in a divorce

Embarking on the path of divorce requires strategic financial planning to achieve a successful settlement. As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), I have witnessed the transformative impact that well-informed financial decisions can have during this process.

In this blog post, we will navi...

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Financial Abuse in Marriage: Signs, Examples, and What to Do if You’re Preparing for Divorce divorce financial planning financial abuse hidden assets divorce

One of the things that breaks my heart is how often I hear women apologize before they tell me what has been happening with the money.

They say things like:

  • “Maybe I’m overreacting.”
  • “He’s always handled the finances.”
  • “I’m just not good with money.”
  • “I don’t even know what questions to ask.”
  • ...
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How to Protect Yourself Financially When Divorcing a Narcissist asset division certified divorce financial analyst co-parenting divorce coach divorce financial planning financial abuse kids and divorce life after divorce ohio divorce preparing for divorce

If you are divorcing a narcissist, you already know that this is not a normal divorce.

Normal divorce is hard. Divorcing a narcissist is something else entirely. The manipulation, the gaslighting, the hidden assets, the refusal to settle reasonably, the way they can make you question your own memor...

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Divorce After 50: Challenges and Survival Tips for a Gray Divorce alimony/spousal support certified divorce financial analyst divorce after 50 divorce coach divorce financial planning gray divorce life after divorce ohio divorce preparing for divorce

Divorce after 50 is not just a legal and financial event. It is a life earthquake.

You are dismantling a life you built over decades. Your social circle may split. Your identity as part of a couple changes overnight. The future you planned together suddenly needs to be rebuilt from scratch — on you...

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Healing After Divorce: Why Community Is the Missing Piece divorce coach divorce support groups life after divorce preparing for divorce

This blog post was written by Liesel Darby, Mediator & Divorce Coach.

Have you ever noticed the incredible relief that comes from realizing you are not alone in your struggles? Knowing that others have faced similar challenges can be immensely comforting, especially when it feels like your loved on...

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