The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
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Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
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The holidays are about family and time together, which can make them feel complicated after a divorce. You want the season to be special for your kids, and you're figuring out a whole new way of doing it, often while working through your own feelings at the same time.
I still remember my first Chris...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 3 Also in this series: Part 1 covers insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 2 covers what to put in your divorce decree, plus college, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset
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Your first holiday season after divorce is going to be different. I still remember my first Christmas. I worked so hard to keep our routines as close to normal as possible, especially for my then-toddler, while my own emotions were all over the place.
So if you're in that season right now, I feel fo...
It doesn’t matter if you’re married or divorced, different people have different ideas about how to transition their children into adults. While you may be in favor of providing full financial support, your co-parent may have other ideas. For that matter, even different states’ laws handle the trans...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 1 Also in this series: Part 2 covers what to put in your divorce decree, plus college, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset | Part 3 covers mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness
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Teenagers process divorce differently from younger children. They need less reassurance about logistics and more honesty about what is actually happening, without adult details. Expect anger, expect them to pull away, and expect them to want a say in the schedule. The parenting plan matters more at ...
It's that time of year again where many of us are considering how we might be better or do better in the new year with New Year's resolutions. If parenting with your ex has been a significant struggle in your life, I want to challenge you to resolve to be a better co-parent this year. If you don't w...
De-escalating co-parenting conflict comes down to four habits: slow your response time down, keep your tone deliberately neutral, stop treating your ex's choices as a competition, and never bring the marriage into a conversation about the children. Most co-parenting arguments escalate because someon...
The first Christmas after divorce is the hardest one, and it helps to expect that rather than be blindsided by it. Set your expectations low, decide the schedule with your co-parent in advance, keep the traditions that still feel right and replace the ones that don't, and give yourself permission to...
Writing a letter of gratitude to an ex is not something most people plan to do. In the early weeks and months after a divorce, gratitude is usually the last thing on your mind.
But for those navigating life as co-parents after divorce, something can shift. The person who once felt like an adversary...
When a child refuses to visit their other parent, the usual cause is the transition itself rather than the other parent. Consistency is what fixes it: keep the routine predictable, keep your own anxiety off your face, let them bring familiar things, and prepare them in advance. Unless there is negle...
Looking for FAFSA tips for divorced parents? In many of my divorce cases, how college expenses will be handled is an issue that needs to be addressed. It's common for parents to wait to divorce until their children are teenagers or young adults. This tends to be around the same time that people are ...
