The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
Not sure where to start?
Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
Since I started supporting people through divorce, I have been amazed at the extremes I have witnessed. Some clients start out pursuing an amicable end to their marriage only to be pulled into a high-conflict situation by their soon-to-be ex. Others are furious when they first reach out, then find h...
The holidays are hard enough on their own. Add divorce to the mix and suddenly every twinkling light, every family gathering, every song on the radio can feel like a small ambush.
Your first set of holidays after divorce will be weird, scary, and painful. But they can also hold moments of genuine j...
Pre-mediation coaching is structured preparation before you sit down to mediate: understanding what will actually happen, deciding what you want and what you can trade, and building the skills to stay regulated when the conversation gets hard. It is usually one or two sessions in the week beforehand...
Writing a letter of gratitude to an ex is not something most people plan to do. In the early weeks and months after a divorce, gratitude is usually the last thing on your mind.
But for those navigating life as co-parents after divorce, something can shift. The person who once felt like an adversary...
Divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences a person can go through. Even if you know it's the right decision, the grief, uncertainty, and upheaval can feel completely overwhelming. That's why I want to talk about one of the most powerful and underrated tools available to you right no...
Change can be difficult whether you choose to make changes in your life or someone else has made that choice for you. Let's face it. Divorce changes many facets of your life and will test your ability to handle change to an extreme.
Some people struggle more than others with change. They fight it, ...
Talking to your kids about divorce is one of the hardest parts of the whole process.
You are managing your own emotions while trying to find the right words for theirs. You want to be honest without overwhelming them. You want them to feel safe and loved even as everything around them is changing...
Preparing for an impending divorce is more than just picking up the phone and calling an attorney. There are the emotional aspects, financial, legal, and, of course, there are parenting issues. It means figuring out what life is going to look like when it's all said and done and includes preparing y...
Helping kids through divorce comes down to four things: keeping conflict with their other parent away from them, telling them the truth at a level they can hold, keeping their daily life as predictable as you can, and getting support for yourself so you are not processing your divorce in front of th...
A financial neutral is a financial expert, usually a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, hired jointly by both spouses in a collaborative divorce. They gather and organise the financial picture, model what different settlement options mean in the short and long term, and present that analysis to bo...
