I have journaled off and on since I knew how to write. Journaling helped me through some of the toughest times in my life. Whether you've journaled previously or not, the action of putting pen to paper is an extraordinarily beneficial way to improve your life. Journaling is an effortless way to change your life when it feels like nothing is going right.
When you free write, you end up writing about the things that are most important to you. They may be things that you don’t even think of as that important but looking back over your writings later will give you a strong inclination of what you find the most rewarding in your life. For example, if you find yourself coming back to the idea of starting your own business over and over again, it’s evident that it’s a dream that’s important to you. When your life is in chaos, you have less to lose, and you might decide to go for it and see what happens.
We get used to living in a routine and frequently overlook the small actions we make that add up to beneficial changes in our lives over time. Journaling helps us see all the successes we’ve had, even when life isn’t going the way we want it to. Using a journal as a form of tracking our accomplishments can bring us a great deal of comfort when times are tough.
We can share our deepest fears and worries in a journal. When we feel down, we often need a sounding board more than we need advice, and journaling gives us that. We can let out and then let go of past hurts and failures, our needs and wants, without having to tell anyone about them but ourselves. Writing is cathartic and can help us release old emotions and beliefs that are no longer serving us.
People who journal often report that they find the solutions to problems within themselves by using journaling to tap into their unconscious. Each of us has the answers to every question already inside of us. Journaling is a way to access those answers positively. It’s incredible how allowing ourselves to be honest and open to our struggles ends up making the answer we’ve been seeking so obvious - it’s all there in black and white.
Many people who journal find themselves writing poetry or drawing to express themselves. A journal is a safe place to be creative. There’s no judgment from others, just an open invitation to express ourselves in whatever way comes up. Allowing this creativity to spring forth is another way that our problems get solved because we allow our minds to be in a different, creative space that is open to all possibilities.
1. A letter to your ex sharing your anger or sadness
2. What are your fears?
3. What are you grateful for today?
4. Who are you thankful for today?
5. What are you most worried about today?
6. What are you looking forward to?
7. A letter of apology to someone you've hurt
8. What's one thing that you've always wanted to try?
9. Make a list of places you would like to visit
10. What do you value more than anything?
11. What are you learning about yourself?
12. What have you accomplished that you didn't know you could do on your own?
13. What are you most proud of?
14. If you could change one thing about your home, what would it be?
15. Where do you see opportunities for improvement in your life?
16. Write about your ideal first date
17. What do you miss about your ex?
18. Make a list of the things your ex did that aggravated you
19. What qualities will you look for in your next partner?
20. Be your own best friend and write a letter to yourself telling yourself precisely what you need to hear.
21. Make a list of things that bring a smile to your face
22. What are the five things you would like to do more of?
23. What do you love about yourself?
24. Write down one regret
25. What's one way you would like to grow in the next year?
26. What's one thing you dream about doing?
27. What do you need to be content?
28. What were your highs and lows of the last week?
29. What's one vacation you would take if the expense wasn't a factor?
30. Write down 10 ways you are going to take care of yourself going forward. (Bonus if you add them to your calendar, as well!)
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