Your first Christmas or holiday after your divorce is going to be different. I still remember my first Christmas. I struggled to keep my routines as close to “normal” as possible, especially for my then-toddler. It’s a special circle of emotions that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. So, my fri...

The holidays are hard enough on their own. Add divorce to the mix and suddenly every twinkling light, every family gathering, every song on the radio can feel like a small ambush. Your first set of holidays after divorce will be weird, scary, and painful. But they can also hold moments of genuin...

Divorce changes so many parts of life, including your financial world. Whether you initiated the divorce or not, adjusting to new expenses, new responsibilities, and a new vision for your life can feel overwhelming. The good news is that you can rebuild. You can regain clarity. And you can create...

When you’re trying to co-parent with your ex, it can make things more difficult for you and your child. Successful co-parenting results in happier children, parents who are less stressed, and an overall greater level of contentment after divorce. While it can be difficult to get adjusted to havin...

Telling parents about divorce can be hard enough. I have seen the tension in a divorce increase too many times as a result of meddling family members or friends. During the holidays, we tend to interact with family members and friends more than we do all year long, so there is even more opportuni...

If it's your first Christmas after your divorce and you are feeling sad or lonely or even angry, that's completely normal. Feelings often intensify around the holidays. I remember my first Christmas after my divorce well. My ex and I didn't have a lot of conversation regarding how it was going t...

Writing a letter of gratitude to an ex is not something most people plan to do. In the early weeks and months after a divorce, gratitude is usually the last thing on your mind. But for those navigating life as co-parents after divorce, something can shift. The person who once felt like an advers...

Rebuilding After Divorce Going through a divorce can leave your finances feeling completely upended. Suddenly managing two households instead of one is costly, regardless of your income or the terms of your settlement. If you're struggling with money after a divorce, you're not alone—and there i...

  Talking to your kids about divorce is one of the hardest parts of the whole process. You are managing your own emotions while trying to find the right words for theirs. You want to be honest without overwhelming them. You want them to feel safe and loved even as everything around them is ch...

That's right. I said it. My key to successful co-parenting with my ex is not "putting my children first," as so many professionals recommend. Before I get into that, let's start with what co-parenting is. What is co-parenting? Co-parenting is the practice of raising children jointly with another ...