Your first set of holidays after your divorce will be weird, scary, and painful - but they’ll also be happy, joyful, and unexpectedly fun if you let them. The key, I think, is to feel your feelings. It’s okay if you’re having a day that isn’t holly and jolly. It’s alright if you sit down to write...

Divorce changes so many parts of life, including your financial world. Whether you initiated the divorce or not, adjusting to new expenses, new responsibilities, and a new vision for your life can feel overwhelming. The good news is that you can rebuild. You can regain clarity. And you can create...

Telling parents about divorce can be hard enough. I have seen the tension in a divorce increase too many times as a result of meddling family members or friends. During the holidays, we tend to interact with family members and friends more than we do all year long, so there is even more opportuni...

If it's your first Christmas after your divorce and you are feeling sad or lonely or even angry, that's completely normal. Feelings often intensify around the holidays. I remember my first Christmas after my divorce well. My ex and I didn't have a lot of conversation regarding how it was going t...

A letter of gratitude to my Ex in honor of this month of Thanksgiving... To the Father of My Children, My Partner in Parenting: I know that I haven't always been grateful. And I know there was a time in our lives when I could not think of a nice thing to say to you. There was a time when I was ...

Going through a divorce is hard, but the transition doesn't end when the divorce is settled and the papers are signed. The negotiations are over, but there are still many changes to face. I don't know about you, but it took me years to process this major life change. When you begin your post-div...

Rebuilding After Divorce Going through a divorce can leave your finances feeling completely upended. Suddenly managing two households instead of one is costly, regardless of your income or the terms of your settlement. If you're struggling with money after a divorce, you're not alone—and there i...

It is my absolute pleasure to welcome guest blogger, Melissa Davis. Melissa’s story is so inspiring for anyone who is working to heal after an affair. Related post: Healing from Infidelity I thought we had a good life I was in my closet (my go-to place when things get hard for me), cur...

Dealing with a divorce is difficult no matter the time of year but dealing with divorce over the holidays compounds the stress. It means more time with family who may or may not be on board with this significant change in your life. It means hearing opinions that you did not ask for even though...

I often find myself sitting in mediation with couples who are looking for guidance when it comes to creating a parenting plan. The beauty of mediation is that you can create a parenting plan that is going to work best for your children and your family. Quite frankly, it doesn't matter what everyo...