The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
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Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
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There are many factors to consider when putting together a financial settlement agreement, but one of the things that has come up recently among my clients has been refinancing your house as part of your divorce financial settlement.
There are two main things to consider when agreeing to anything, ...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 3 Also in this series: Part 1 — Insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 2 — College, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset
Divorce can be a bit like a special club that you never an...
I have worked with many women and couples through the years as a divorce financial planner and mediator, and I genuinely believe that you can thrive after divorce. I have seen it firsthand, both watching the people I’ve worked with and having been through it myself!
If there’s one common factor betw...
When you are going through a divorce, you hear a lot of things. From well-meaning friends who went through their own messy split five years ago, from that one aunt who knows somebody who knows somebody, from late-night Google rabbit holes that send you spiraling.
The problem is that when the same th...
Not long ago, I sat with a woman who was terrified.
Her divorce was underway, and for the first time in her marriage, she was staring down a stack of financial documents she didn't recognize. Her husband had always handled the money. Now she was being asked to make decisions that would shape the res...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 2 Also in this series: Part 1 — Insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 3 — Mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness
The time before your divorce is full of anticipation. ...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 1 Also in this series: Part 2 — College, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset | Part 3 — Mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness
When I think back to the time during and even before my div...
Few people in the world can truly say that they love paperwork. But, unfortunately, the whole divorce process creates an abundance of it, and if you aren’t organized, it can really cost you a lot of money. That’s on top of the stress and anxiety that could appear when you can’t find a particular doc...
Discernment counseling is a unique approach to helping couples decide what they should do about their marriage. While traditional couples’ therapy typically has an end goal of saving the marriage or saving the relationship, discernment counseling allows couples to work through different processes an...
Divorce rarely comes out of nowhere.
Most of the time, it builds slowly. The distance grows. The conversations get shorter. The resentment gets louder. And one day, someone says out loud what both people have been thinking for a long time.
In my work as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, I've sa...
If your husband asked for a divorce, you are likely experiencing a lot of different emotions. Take a step back and breathe. It might not feel like it right now, but you are going to be okay.
The first thing you should do is start taking really good care of yourself. This may seem like a strange reco...
Divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences a person can go through. Even if you know it's the right decision, the grief, uncertainty, and upheaval can feel completely overwhelming. That's why I want to talk about one of the most powerful and underrated tools available to you right no...
