The Intentional Divorce Library
Divorce comes with more financial questions than anyone expects. This is where you'll find real answers on asset division, budgeting, retirement, and the mistakes that quietly cost women the most, written by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who has helped clients navigate exactly what you're facing now.
No fluff, no fear tactics. Just the information you need to make clear-eyed decisions and protect the life you're building next.
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Every article here is written for a particular moment. Start with the stage that matches where you are, and you will find the handful of pieces that actually apply to you.
- I am considering divorce. Can I afford it, what happens to the house, what should I know before talking to an attorney.
- I am preparing for divorce. Documents, credit, insurance, retirement accounts, and choosing your professional team.
- I am going through divorce. The house, support, dividing retirement, QDROs, taxes, and evaluating a settlement.
- My divorce is final. Retitling assets, confirming the QDRO, beneficiaries, rebuilding cash flow and credit.
Browsing by topic instead? Every category is listed in the sidebar, from QDROs and the family home to co-parenting and life after divorce.
Taxes are probably the last thing you want to think about when you are in the middle of a divorce. But getting this wrong can cost you real money. And the rules are more nuanced than most people realize.
I get tax questions from clients constantly, especially around filing status. So let me walk thr...
There's that famous quote by Benjamin Franklin about how nothing is certain but taxes or death. Regardless of your previous involvement with tax preparation, your tax situation has likely changed if you're on your own for the first time in a while. And there's no avoiding it; your taxes will need to...
Divorce is anything but easy. Some emotional or financial issues will be more challenging to overcome than others, yet every challenge has a solution.
As you work your way through a checklist of items to deal with during the divorce process, you'll have lots to consider, from who gets what to your ...
For a lot of women, Thanksgiving is the first big holiday after divorce. Even if you've been divorced for years, the season can still sting. November and December are full of traditions, and many of them were built around the family you had before.
Here's what I see happen again and again. People t...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 3 Also in this series: Part 1 covers insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 2 covers what to put in your divorce decree, plus college, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset
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I have worked with many women and couples through the years as a divorce financial planner and mediator, and I genuinely believe that you can thrive after divorce. I have seen it firsthand, both watching the people I’ve worked with and having been through it myself!
If there’s one common factor betw...
Your first holiday season after divorce is going to be different. I still remember my first Christmas. I worked so hard to keep our routines as close to normal as possible, especially for my then-toddler, while my own emotions were all over the place.
So if you're in that season right now, I feel fo...
The holidays are hard enough on their own. Add divorce to the mix and suddenly every twinkling light, every family gathering, every song on the radio can feel like a small ambush.
Your first set of holidays after divorce will be weird, scary, and painful. But they can also hold moments of genuine j...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 2 Also in this series: Part 1 covers insurance, process, relationships, and self-care | Part 3 covers mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness
The things people most often wish they had p...
This is part of a 3-part series on what women wish they knew before their divorce. You're reading: Part 1 Also in this series: Part 2 covers what to put in your divorce decree, plus college, agreements, exhaustion, and mindset | Part 3 covers mediation, priorities, state laws, and happiness
When I t...
Dealing with a breakup or divorce can be one of the most emotionally overwhelming experiences you will ever face. The stress, sadness, confusion, and anger can feel like they hit you all at once. I remember going through that same emotional whiplash during my own divorce. One minute I felt steady, a...
Divorce changes so many parts of life, including your financial world. Whether you initiated the divorce or not, adjusting to new expenses, new responsibilities, and a new vision for your life can feel overwhelming. The good news is that you can rebuild. You can regain clarity. And you can create a ...
