Leah Hadley [00:00:01]:
Welcome to Intentional Divorce Insights. I'm Leah Hadley, certified divorce financial analyst, accredited financial counselor, and the founder of Intentional Divorce Solutions. I'll be your guide through the complexities of divorce finance and emotional wellness. Join me as we uncover practical tips and empowering insights to help you navigate your divorce with clarity and intention.
Leah Hadley [00:00:24]:
Hi there and welcome back to Intentional Divorce Insights. I am so happy to have you here with us today. We have a fantastic guest on. I just had the opportunity to meet Lissa recently, and I'm just excited to dive into her wisdom with you. Lissa Figgins is a former "busyness" owner who learned to unhurry her heart and release the need to control time, multitask, and always be doing. Now, as a scaling strategist, she helps the busy Christian business owner grow her revenue and results by multiplying the 24 hours she's been given rather than trying to manage them. When she's not helping women lead with focus and impact, you'll find her walking and talking, traveling and planning, reading and leading with dark coffee and dark chocolate close by. I love that.
Leah Hadley [00:01:15]:
She's known for speaking one simple truth, and that is you have time. Welcome, Lissa. Thanks for being here with us.
Lissa Figgins [00:01:26]:
Thank you so much, Leah. It's so fun to be here. And I just want to say as we get started today, I've been a time girl for forever. I've always had a planner. I've always had a checklist. I've always had all the things right. I thought time management was. It was a solution.
Lissa Figgins [00:01:37]:
It wasn't. It actually was keeping me more frustrated and stressed out about my time. But I want you guys to know, like, I literally am walking right now at this time of recording exactly through what you're working through in your life. And so I want you to know, like, I get it. And this is not just pie in the sky. This is literally what I am having to do day by day in order to not only get through the 24 hours, but also make sure that I'm making the important decisions I need to in this time of life. So it's not going to be a lot of theory. It's going to be like, what actually works.
Lissa Figgins [00:02:06]:
So I wish I could say I didn't know what it feels like, but I actually do.
Leah Hadley [00:02:10]:
Yeah. No, and that's good to know, I think, for people, because a lot of times people are kind of talking about this stuff. But, like, for a lot of people when they're going through a divorce, I've heard it over the years so many times, they'll tell me, I feel like I have another part time job or I have another full time job on top of caring for my family and doing my regular responsibilities and all of this, it can just feel like a tremendous amount of weight that there's never enough time, even when you feel like you're doing everything that you can to keep up. So, Lissa, talk to us about what's going on with people. Why are they experiencing that?
Lissa Figgins [00:02:46]:
Yeah, well, I mean, I think, let's be honest, even before you were in the season, you were probably saying, if I had time when I have time, you know, if only I had time. It feels like time just seems to be this like, elusive thing that's always a little bit further than we can reach. There never seems to quite be enough. And we're always chasing what we don't think we have. And then enter a season like what you and I are both in, listeners and I, we're walking through something that is consuming a lot of time. And what I find is, I describe it to people. You've got the logistical side of things that are taking up time. You know, a lot of paperwork, a lot of correspondence going on with different people, maybe responding to, you know, conversations and messages.
Lissa Figgins [00:03:24]:
And then you've got the emotional side of things that is taking time, right? And here's the thing that didn't change was the 24 hours you get. I call it like your bucket, right? So think about like your time as a bucket. The size of the bucket didn't change, but suddenly it feels like there's more that's vying for that space in that bucket. And so really what I love coming down to you, you said it in the intro, like, the truth is you have time. God laid 24 hours in front of each and every one of us this morning like he did yesterday, like he will tomorrow, right? We didn't. We can't change that no matter how much we want to. So that really isn't the choice how much we have, it's what are we doing with it. And this is why I love to say it's not really a time problem, it's a decision problem.
Lissa Figgins [00:04:03]:
So often we, we are not making intentional decisions around our time. We're letting everyone else and everything else decide for us, right? Because we got urgency and other people's, you know, input and emotions and all these circumstances and things like that. And so it's not that you don't have time, is that too many other things are often deciding your time for you, and your time is being spent by default, not by design. And in any season, that can be exhausting. But I think, especially in this season, we have to make intentional decisions around what we are doing with that time, because it is our greatest asset. It is how we're actually going to move the ball down the field is by taking time to do the things that really matter in the season that we're in and what's in front of us.
Leah Hadley [00:04:45]:
Yeah, absolutely. And for so many people, they really are trying to just hold everything together and get through this on top of it. Right. And so just to what you're speaking about, Lissa, bringing that intentionality to it, acknowledging that you're in a difficult season and it's okay to say no to some things. Right. Like, there might just not be enough capacity right now for you to do everything that you were doing before. I know I had to make a really difficult decision last year. I was super involved with our local NAWBO chapter, which is the national association of Women Business Owners, and I was on the board and serving in the capacity of Director of Corporate Partnerships.
Leah Hadley [00:05:29]:
And I know that's such an important role, and I care deeply about our chapter, but my mom got really sick, and my mom passed away, and, you know, dealing with kind of her estate after her passing and everything that came along with that, it was just. It was too much. And it was like, yes, I absolutely love this organization, but I had to recognize for myself that, like, this is a season that I need to just pause and really acknowledge what is most important to me in this moment. And that made some tough decisions. Right. And that meant stepping back for me, but I'm so glad I did it. And I think the chapter was so wonderfully supportive and acknowledging, like, hey, this woman's got a lot on her plate right now. She might not be the best one to have this responsibility in our chapter right now either.
Leah Hadley [00:06:15]:
Right. So I think it's important to acknowledge where we're at.
Lissa Figgins [00:06:19]:
Yeah. And I love that you brought up the word seasons. Right. Because I do think there are different seasons in life, whether it's based on, you know, a job or career, whether it's based on seasons of motherhood, seasons of marriage and divorce, you know, seasons of aging parents, or, you know, other issues. And I think that is where we have to, like, stop and, like you said, acknowledge what is the season I'm in.
Leah Hadley [00:06:40]:
Yeah.
Lissa Figgins [00:06:40]:
And so if my 24 hours doesn't change, then I need to make some intentional decisions about what I'm going to allow or not allow to fill that time. Because here's the thing, if you don't decide, like I said, it will be decided for you by someone or something else. And so almost that, like giving ourselves grace and permission to say, it doesn't have to look like prior seasons when we did have more emotional bandwidth, when we did feel like we had more capacity or things like that. And guess what? The season that you guys are in, the season that I'm walking in right now as well, too, is not going to last forever.
Leah Hadley [00:07:08]:
Right.
Lissa Figgins [00:07:09]:
You know, and so go, okay, how do I not stress myself out in this season and then come out on the other side like a shell of a person? You know, it means that we're going to have to make some intentional decisions around this season. What matters in this season, like you said, and, and be okay with the fact that there may be some people that are disappointed. There may be, you know, some things that we have to let go for a time, but then we can come back and readdress those things and say, okay, is now the season. You may find that, yes, you pick that back up. You, like, you may step into a position like you set down when you're through a season like you've been through, or you may decide, you know, what it was for a time, but it's not for this time. And I'm okay with that. And so they're just, we do have to make really decisions and time is going to be that one thing that I think we need to make sure that we're paying attention to first. And everybody's making financial decisions, right? All the time we're paying attention to, you know, what the balance is in the bank account.
Lissa Figgins [00:07:58]:
But are we paying attention to the balance on our time, you know, or just giving it away to every, what I call ring, ding, ping. Because we've got this appendage that follows us 24 7, you know, plus everything going on our head. So, yeah, we've got to pay attention, plan for the season, not what you wish it was.
Leah Hadley [00:08:15]:
Yeah, absolutely. And for many of our listeners, I mean, the emotions, the stress, the grief, the pressure that people are facing when they're going through a divorce, that's going to impact how they handle their time and how do they make their decisions. What would you say to those women?
Lissa Figgins [00:08:32]:
Yeah, well, stress and grief and things like that do take up space not only in our heads, but then I think that also can make things feel like they are a little bit slower. Sometimes I feel like I'm just walking, you know, trudging through molasses. My brain isn't always able to make quick decisions the same way that it used to. And what happens is I think everything starts feeling important, right? Everything feels urgent. It's not really clear. We're. We're moving. We move from being, like, choosing to be more reacting, from leading to more just surviving.
Lissa Figgins [00:09:01]:
Like, I'm just trying to get through the day, you know, and those even simple decisions feel really heavy, you know? And here's what I found. When my mind is overwhelmed, when I'm not taking the time to unplug and not be producing something, not be consuming something, not be responsible for somebody else, it's really hard to hear the still small voice that brings the clarity. Right. And so that's why it's not just a time problem. It really is a clarity and a decision problem. And we need to be able to take those times to push pause and just really be able to hear what's going on so we can make those right decisions.
Leah Hadley [00:09:34]:
Absolutely. I literally just wrote about this in our newsletter that went out last week. So at the time we're recording this, this is the newsletter that went out last week, and I literally was talking about I just went to a retreat for a week and how much it just changed my perspective to have that space away, to have the time to actually be able to think and not be subject to all the noise that's out there. It's so, so, so powerful. So, Lissa, what does it look like to move from just kind of trying to manage your time and survive the day to actually really stewarding your time in a season? That can feel so overwhelming.
Lissa Figgins [00:10:10]:
Yeah, well, this is where I love, like, helping people see I was the poster child for time management. Like, I thought managing my time was the gonna be the solution. How many of you have said, I just need to get better at managing my time? I think that's like the mantra that we all say, you know, I'll start Monday. I'll start next month. You know, like, I'm gonna be better about managing my time today, but the English teacher in me likes to look at definitions, and so one day I looked it up. To manage literally means to keep contained or under control. How does that feel? It feels like a game of whack a mole all day long to get your ducks all lined up, and then life happens. And so I feel like it management keeps us in that I'm trying to keep up.
Lissa Figgins [00:10:46]:
I'm trying to keep time from getting away. This is why you always feel behind, right? Think about the manager at a fast food restaurant. They're literally running around all day long just trying to keep all the ducks in a row trying to manage things, right? And they're exhausted when they get home. And that's how so many of us are at the end of our day. Like, I managed, you know, I was trying to, you know, react all day long and keep up and I'm just exhausted. And so really that's a fear based response to our time. I feel like something's getting away from me and so I have this fear response. But stewarding, like if you were to ask someone to steward something for you.
Lissa Figgins [00:11:15]:
So like Leah, if I were to say, hey, would you steward? Usually we think about it in money, right? Or some kind of like valuable possession. That means that you are going to intentionally take this resource that doesn't belong to you, it belongs to me. And you are going to go, okay, how, how am I going to care for this? And how might I invest this on this person's behalf in order to bring growth and results for them? Right? And so this is now a difference in. I'm just trying to keep something from getting away to. I'm really, really strategic about how I'm investing this precious asset I have in front of us. And this is why I always say when we are trying to manage our time and we're always chasing what feels like it's getting away, we're missing out on the opportunity of the time you actually have in front of you. Right? Like if you're always chasing the money you don't think you have, you're missing out on the opportunity to invest the money you do have. Right? And so stewardship looks like giving yourself permission to say, okay, this is a healing season, a transition season.
Lissa Figgins [00:12:07]:
I can't do it all. But then saying, okay, with the time I do have, what actually matters where, where do I need to invest this so that it's going to move the ball down the field? I say right in the right direction. And sometimes it feels slow, but it's just, you know, those little investments of time over time is what moves us in one direction or the other. And so here's where it comes down to, like, recognizing our time is valuable and asking what is the best use of it right now? Not what feels urgent or what do other people want me to do with my time, right. But like, what is actually most important and actually going to move me in the direction that I need to go.
Leah Hadley [00:12:43]:
Yeah, that's such a powerful shift. It sounds subtle, but it really isn't when you actually think about what does that mean. And I know for a lot of our listeners right now everything feels urgent, right? I mean, getting back to your attorney, responding to your soon to be act, your kids have stuff like everything feels urgent right now. If you are in a season of divorce. And I totally get that and I would love for you to talk a little bit about how our listeners can really discern what actually deserves their time and attention right now and what maybe they can put to the side.
Lissa Figgins [00:13:17]:
Yeah, well, we've already made a couple of shifts and here's where I always tell people I love a good planner. In fact, I have a planner that I created and I put together the best of what all the planners I tried all the years and stuff like that so we can link to that at the end. But if you really get clear on the inside of what matters, it's not going to matter what you put on paper. Right? And what I found is there are three shifts that need to happen. We've already talked about two of them. One of them is stop saying you don't have time. You have time. If you ever don't believe it, open up your phone, go into that screen time number and read that number out loud, right? Like that's always the reality check that I'm like, don't tell me you don't have time.
Lissa Figgins [00:13:52]:
You do, right? And think about how much time did I give to this one thing, right? That second shift is when we just talked about going from trying to just manage your time, that fear based response to stewarding your time, which is that faith, you know, I'm looking for how I can use this to move forward. And then the last one is really changing the question you ask around your time, what do you think? I'll ask you, Leah, what do you think is the most often asked question that we, you know, kind of, maybe it goes in our head or whatever throughout the day if we look at our watch, the phone, you know, the number on our computer, on our, on our phone, things like that. What do you think is that question that comes to mind about undertime?
Leah Hadley [00:14:26]:
I have no idea.
Lissa Figgins [00:14:29]:
I think they all kind of boil down to what time is it? And as soon as you go, what time is it? You're like, already like, I'm behind. I gotta like pick up the pace to, you know, get where I think I should be. And so this last shift is really subtle as well, but it's so important to go from what time is it? Because that's the urgency, right? To what is it time for? That, actually, again, it slows you down just like that stewardship slows you down to, oh, I actually have something in front of me now. I need to make a decision about what it's time for. Not what do I have to do, not what's yelling the loudest at me, but actually what matters right now. And so I love saying, like, you can literally do this in the moment, right? So if I feel myself being scattered, like, I feel like my brain is going in a million directions, I run a business, I'm coaching clients, I'm serving at my church, you know, I'm navigating all the divorce stuff, things like that. I will literally just stop and pause and say, lyssa, what is it time for in this moment? Like, and that brings me back instead of, like, trying to multitask to all these things we think. I think multitasking is our superpower.
Lissa Figgins [00:15:30]:
I call it kryptonite. It weakens our focus. And then probably that taper work is going to take twice as long, you know, or that decision you make is going to, you know, be put off or things like that. So it's really going, okay, what is it time for in this moment? And then choose the next right thing. And if you give that your full focus, even if it was just for five minutes, you will be able to then move on past that thing onto whatever the next thing is. Right? And so I think that is so important that we're always coming back to, what is it time for right now? Because we are in this state of, like, you know, heightened sense of a, you know, urgency in so many areas. And then we may be chasing squirrels that really aren't going to take us in any good direction. So that could be a really great way to kind of reset.
Lissa Figgins [00:16:10]:
Better yet, ask that question at the beginning of your day right before you get into the chaos of the day, hey, what is it time for today? And that's something that, you know, I'll kind of. I can lay out for you and in just a minute about what that might look like. But, you know, and ideally, maybe even before the week starts, hey, what are some things that it's time for this week? And then deciding ahead of time, where is that going to live in my week? So that way I'm not holding it in my head, like, I need to get to this living off a to do list. But I already know, hey, for example, I've got some paperwork I need to work on for my attorney. So guess what? I've already put that in. And I don't have to worry about it in the middle of doing an interview because I know I already have time set aside for that.
Leah Hadley [00:16:44]:
Right.
Leah Hadley [00:16:46]:
Yeah. I want to come back to one of the points that you made that I think is so important for people to think about. You know, we have a membership program called the Empowered Sisterhood. And every week we meet just. It's a casual coffee chat that we do weekly. But at the end of each coffee chat, we always have our members share either a goal or an intention for the coming week. And one of the things that I've really witnessed, what you're talking about before, Lissa, where sometimes when we're putting something off, we actually are taking a tremendous amount of time to complete it because of all the mental energy of, like, procrastinating and finding other things to do. And just once we even sit down to do it, not wanting to do it, and having it take three times as long as it needed to take to begin with.
Leah Hadley [00:17:28]:
Right. And that's completely, completely and totally common. And what I have seen that's so powerful is these women just acknowledging and stating like, hey, this is what I'm gonna do for this week. I'm committing to all my other sisters in the chapter. And then when we get together next week, I have that accountability in place. It's, like, so simple. It's literally just stating that you're gonna do it and having somebody acknowledge that you stated that you're gonna do it.
Lissa Figgins [00:17:53]:
But it's so powerful statistically. Get this. If you think about the fact that you need to do something, 10% chance you're gonna do it. If you write it down, 42% chance you're going to do it. Okay, that's pretty good. If you share it with somebody else, you're up to, like, 74%, I think it is. And then if you get weekly accountability, which is why I love that you're doing that now, you're up in the 96 percentile.
Leah Hadley [00:18:14]:
Yeah.
Lissa Figgins [00:18:14]:
That thing is going to happen. And guess what? I do an accountability call with my clients every Monday as well. They're all business owners. And so we're talking about, hey, what's moving the needle in your business this week? And what are you going to focus time on? And guess what? There are weeks when, like, life happens and you come back and you're like, yeah, this is what I said last week. But I Didn't. And that's part of the process, too. It's like recognizing it is okay when something doesn't go as planned, when, you know, I do drop the ball, but we just don't want to stay in that place.
Lissa Figgins [00:18:40]:
Right. So then how do we come back to, okay, what does matter? And what was it that took the time away from that last week? You know, a lot of times it's, we haven't decided what matters, then we haven't decided where it lives, and then we haven't decided that it's important enough to protect it. Right. And we just leave ourselves open to everyone else. It's like I talk about, like, if you had a garden, this is the time of year a lot of people are getting their gardens ready, right? None of your neighbors are driving by saying, oh, my goodness, she's so selfish. If you put a fence around it because you're going to keep, like, the rabbits and the deer out. Like, they're like, oh, look, she's planting a garden and she wants to protect what's inside so that it can actually grow.
Leah Hadley [00:19:15]:
Right.
Lissa Figgins [00:19:15]:
And I think that we think that boundaries around our time are selfish or are harsh or things like that. And really, when we allow anyone and anything to have access and come running through, you know, anytime they want, then, yeah, those things that matter are going to get trampled and they're not going to be able to. To grow or flourish or move, you know, in the way direction we want them to.
Leah Hadley [00:19:34]:
Yeah, absolutely. So for the women who feel just emotionally and mentally stretched thin right now, what's one simple way she can start to feel more grounded and in control of her time again?
Lissa Figgins [00:19:48]:
Yeah. Well, I love that you said simple, because I think we all need simplicity no matter what season. But I think especially when you've got a lot of emotional things and a lot of also logistical decisions you're making. So, number one, don't try to fix your whole life. Like, just focus on the next day. Right? And here is where I teach something called order determines capacity. So go back to your. That bucket, right? You got those same 24 hours.
Lissa Figgins [00:20:09]:
What are you choosing or allowing to fill it? And I talk about. I call them, I keep them here. By. By. Here I come. Oranges and Skittles, right? So oranges have a lot of nutrients, vitamins, you know, like, it's a good thing. It's going to fill you up. You're going to be glad that you consumed this.
Lissa Figgins [00:20:22]:
A Skittle. It might be kind of fun and fruity in the, in the time. But it's not really going to help you with your health goals, right? Well, way too many of us are letting all the Skittles of our day fill our time, and then there's not time for the oranges, right? So I always say, start with oranges. In fact, I have a bigger jar that I do this. I do this little illustration where if you let. Put the Skittles in first, I fill it to about a little over halfway with what I have in my jar. There's not room for all the oranges, maybe one or two, but, like, that's about it. Pour it all out.
Lissa Figgins [00:20:49]:
Put the oranges in first. There's room for all the oranges. And people look at me like, but, Lissa, that's not real life. I have Skittles, and I take the same amount of Skittles. Every single Skittle fits into without, oh, going over the top, because you put the oranges in first. And so I say, choose your oranges first. What is one or two things today that matter most? What are my oranges today? And then place them in your, you know, in your calendar. And I teach something called time anchor zones, where, you know, you have a simple rhythm, you've got that morning time, how you're starting the day, you've got the middle of the day, how you're handling what matters, whether that's taking care of kids or whether that's working a job or you have a business or something, and that you've got your evening.
Lissa Figgins [00:21:27]:
How am I closing the day? Right? And so when. When you identify an orange, then which one of those time anchor zones in my day does this belong? Right? We start building this simple rhythm, you know, and a lot of those things, like, you know, the way you start your day that really matters. You may feel like you don't have a lot of time to take care of yourself in the morning, but I always say, if you don't refill, how are you going to pour out all day long? So how can you start creating this intentional rhythm around one thing? I can do one orange right, each morning that will help me, like, fill up body, mind, spirit, so that way I can be present to what the day holds. And then I think we have to think about the same thing at the end of the day. I'm not scrolling right until way too late. And then wishing I would have gone to bed earlier. This has been me lately. I've been up way too late working on paperwork for my attorney and things like that, but just going, okay, at some point, I say, I need to unplug because now I need to rest.
Lissa Figgins [00:22:14]:
Right. Or do some journaling or reading or things like that. And so we start building that daily rhythm of, like, how do I start my day? What's an orange that needs my time in the day? And then how am I ending my day that then can start feeling like, okay, everything isn't so all over the place and out of control.
Leah Hadley [00:22:30]:
Yeah. And that's such a fantastic visual also between, like, the Skittles and the orange. And really, what do you need, Right? What do you need to nourish your mind, your body, your soul, and make sure that you're taking care of yourself? And that way you can be there for other people, because otherwise, when you're not really figuring out what. What matters, what you need, then you're exactly right. Everybody else then dictates what that looks like. And that's, you know, the opposite of being intentional in terms of coming up with solutions and things that are going to be meaningful for your life going forward. So I'm so glad that you have really brought this to the light, Lissa.
Leah Hadley [00:23:06]:
Now, I know you have a fantastic resource for our audience. Tell us about that.
Lissa Figgins [00:23:11]:
Yeah, well, we just talked about how do you set that daily rhythm right with those timing zones? I put together a little guide called the Daily Rhythm Reset. I will tell you it is not another time blocking planner or system that will make you feel bad that you can't keep up. I've tried all those time blocking doesn't work because it's just way too tight and to do oriented and just always makes us feel behind. So instead, I'm going to teach you. What does it look like to anchor your time in time anchor zones. Think about what a boat does right when you drop anchor, it is keeping that boat from drifting. But there has to be enough give in that line so that that boat can respond to the wind and the waves. Otherwise, it will smash into the dock or it will break away or whatever.
Lissa Figgins [00:23:47]:
And so we have to do the same thing with our time. We need to have some light structure so that we don't drift into, you know, all kinds of waters we don't want to be in. But we also want to make sure we've got some margin to be able to, you know, to respond to what's coming. And that's gonna help you feel more grounded, know what to focus on, what it's time for, and stop reacting to everything coming at you or feeling like I have to do it right now because it feels urgent. So, yes, we're going to kind of start anchoring your time, and you can grab that at www.redeemhertime.com/rhythm. And we'll start building that daily rhythm where you're asking the question, what is it time for? And then plugging it into those time anchors in your day.
Leah Hadley [00:24:23]:
Excellent. So we will be sure to include a link to that down below in the show notes along with the planner that Lissa mentioned earlier on in the show as well. And Lissa, if people want to learn more about your connection with you online, what's the the best way to do that?
Lissa Figgins [00:24:37]:
Yeah, well, I love hanging out on my podcast, so I love that you guys are listening to this podcast. You probably love having something in your ear when you're doing dishes or out for a walk or getting ready in the morning. So the Redeem Her Time podcast is my favorite place to hang out because that's where we can have conversations around. What does it look like when we're in messy seasons of life? What does it look like when we're trying to juggle multiple roles? And I come at everything from a faith perspective, so how does that really shape where our time goes and how we approach it from that kind of perspective as well? So, yeah, come find me at the Redeem Her Time podcast. It'd be fun to hang out over there.
Leah Hadley [00:25:09]:
Excellent. Thank you so much for joining us today. I know you have a lot on your plate these days, and I really appreciate you taking the time to share your wisdom with us. Any final words you want to share with our audience today?
Lissa Figgins [00:25:22]:
Yeah, I think it's really just coming back to that really simple phrase that I want to be ringing in everyone's head, and that is, you have time. I think we get in this season. We're so wanting to be on the other side of it. We have so many things coming at us as we're trying to navigate, you know, kids or work or the things we're already doing, plus all this other stuff. And it can feel like I just don't have time for all of this. And then like you said, it'd be really easy to just kind of push things off or cave in in some areas because we feel like we didn't have time to really address it well. So whenever you feel like, oh my goodness, I just don't have time, you know, and that starts creeping up there. Like, I just want you to slow down and be like, wait, listen, Leah had this conversation and they said you have time.
Lissa Figgins [00:26:03]:
And then from that settled place. Now ask that question, what is it time for? And you're going to see such a difference in just like, okay, I don't feel like I have to react to everything now. I can really prioritize the things that matter. And guess what? A lot of those skittles are going to kind of drop off the radar because they won't really matter as much as they felt like they did before.
Leah Hadley [00:26:23]:
Yeah, I think that's the part that people are surprised by, that once you do bring intentionality to this, you are going to find that there are some things that are easier to let go because they just are not as important as maybe they once seemed or maybe they once were. Right Again, we're all going through different seasons, and you're going to have different priorities in different seasons. That's okay and totally normal.
Lissa Figgins [00:26:44]:
So, Leah, thinking about your next season, I just want to say this real quick. Like, the things that you're wishing you had time for right now that you feel like I just don't. It's okay to grieve the fact that you don't have time for something that you maybe really want to. So put it on, you know, put it in someplace and set a reminder on your phone, you know, when you think you're going to be past a certain point that you can revisit that and say, hey, is it time for this now? You know, and I think we can just when we know that there will be a time for it down the road, I think that makes it a lot easier to, you know, be able to put that in a different bucket right now if we have to. So.
Leah Hadley [00:27:16]:
Absolutely. That's a fantastic point. And I know a lot of you who are experiencing a lot of changes may be grieving things that you had envisioned for your life with your partner, and maybe that's looking different now going forward. And that doesn't necessarily mean bad. Right. The new vision can be beautiful and amazing and exciting and we can put all those things down that we want to make sure that we have time for and we're prioritizing in our lives. So again, Lissa, thank you so much for being here with us today and for our audience. Thank you for joining us and we will see you next week.
Leah Hadley [00:27:48]:
Thank you for joining me on Intentional Divorce Insights. It's a privilege to share this time with you. I hope each episode offers valuable guidance
Leah Hadley [00:27:56]:
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